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Recently I asked you all for some input for my new upcoming podcast. Your
answers surprised me and really made me sit back and reassess how I can
be of the greatest service to you.
What your answers revealed to me is that many of you are struggling with money and relationships.
Human Design can be enormously powerful in helping you master
some new skills in both of those areas of your life.
Over the next few weeks I’m going to share some information about money and
relationships (and, of course, Human Design) that I think will give you some new
insights in making both of those areas of your life a source of support, nurturing
One of the problems with the way we teach personal growth, spiritual evolution
and high performance living is most teachers start with the assumption that
everybody is the same and that there is one way of creating success in life.
I’ve been a life coach for 25 years. I’ve been helping people for all of my adult life.
There is no one size fits all approach to creating success. Period. The end.
There are more than 7 billion paths to success. I want to help you discover your
unique path to getting all the support and love you deserve.
Over the past 10 years in the coaching/metaphysical world, we’ve been talking
about “manifesting” and creating what you want in life. If you’re like most of
my clients, you’ve probably read all kinds of books about affirmations, dream
boards, money rituals. You’ve probably attended workshops and trainings
led by very successful people who have given you simple, step-by-step formulas
for creating a great life….
And, even though you did everything “right”, you still didn’t get the results you
I get it.
Money has been one of my personal challenges in my life. I’ve been bankrupt,
over $80,000 in debt, lost my house to foreclosure…in one of my most
humiliating moments, I chased the repo man down the street, in my nightgown,
in the middle of the night with my newborn baby in my arms, trying to get my
baby’s carseat out of my car because I couldn’t afford another one…
Learning how to create the life I really want took many, many years of struggle
and trial and error.
I’m not a millionaire. I don’t live in a mansion or drive an expensive car.
(I have a volkswagon station wagon…and my husband and I share one car.)
But I have the life that I love. The life that’s perfect for me.
It took me a long time to create this life. I think one of the reasons it took
me so long was that I really didn’t understand who I was and how I was being
influenced by the energy of the people around me.
For most of my adult life I had a picture of success that was given to me by
my family, my community and even my spiritual teachers. And, while this
was a pretty standard definition of success and it had a certain appeal,
in the end, what I learned is that my definition of success and what I
want in my life is unique to me and if I wasn’t trying to create what was right f
or me, it just didn’t happen.
When I got clear about what I truly wanted for my life, things began to get better.
What if there was a formula for getting the most out of life that was customized
to your unique energetic needs and helped you figure out what you need to
do to create what you truly want?
The answer to this question doesn’t lie in finding some kind of magic “manifesting”
formula. The most important part of creating what you want is knowing what
you truly want.
If you’re trying to create something in your life that you don’t really, really want,
you won’t manifest it.
You won’t manifest it because the nature of life and being human is such that
we are designed to have exactly what we want. When we try to create in a
different direction from that truth, we unconsciously stop ourselves.
In other words, sometimes you don’t get what you want because it’s not
what you truly want.
But, knowing what you truly want is a pretty tricky challenge.
Part of why knowing what you want is so challenging is that most of us don’t
really know who we are and, if you want to know what you really want, you’ve
got to know who you really are.
Human Design shows you the mechanics of how your energy operates.
It shows you how you use energy and how other’s people’s energy influences you.
When you look at a Human Design chart you will see that there are colored
elements on the chart and white elements on the chart.
Anything that is colored in on your chart is consistent energy that you
experience all the time. This energy is, in essence, who you truly are.
Anything that is white on the chart is inconsistent energy. The white areas
of the chart are where you take energy and information in from others and
the world around you. And…here’s the kicker…you don’t just experience
other people’s energy, you actually take that energy in and you experience
it in an amplified way.
Let’s look at an example. Let’s say that you have an undefined (open)
Head and Ajna Center, which most of you do.
When you have an open Head and Ajna, you take in other people’s thoughts
and inspirations. The purpose of that openness is for you to be wise about
inspiration, thoughts and beliefs. The highest expression of your Human Design
is to be able to interpret ideas and inspirations in an unlimited way and to see
thoughts and believes from many different angles.
When you have an open Head and Ajna, you are always experiencing other
people’s minds. And, if you’re like most of us who have been trained to
“use our heads” to make up our minds, you may be constantly trying to make
decisions in your life based on other people’s thoughts and inspirations…not your own.
If you have an Open Head and Ajna and you’re trying to figure out what you
want, you have to understand that you’re never going to get at the answer
by thinking it through. What you want is always going to change and vary
depending on where you are and who you are with. Holding onto a fixed
thought or inspiration is going to be pretty difficult.
Your thoughts and beliefs, and consequently your desires, always have the
possibility of being imprinted on you by other people’s energy.
For example, let’s say you have an open Head and Ajna and you wake up
with a craving for a breakfast burrito. So, you get up, get dressed, go to your
favorite restaurant with then intention of ordering your burrito.
As the hostess guides you to your seat in the restaurant, you are suddenly hit
with the idea that you would rather have a spinach omelet. So you order one
and eat it. When you’re done, you are immediately filled with regret because,
now that you’ve eaten the omelet, the craving for a burrito has returned and
you’re confused about why you just didn’t order one in the first place.
When you have an open Head/Ajna it’s easy to be influenced by the inspirations
of others. Most likely, while you were in the restaurant, you were overcome by the
energy of the thoughts and desires of another person and you temporarily forgot
what you truly wanted. Once the other persons energy left your energy field, you
returned to your own thoughts and desires.
This scenario will repeat itself in all areas of your life until you understand your
unique way of getting clear about your true desires.
In order for you to get clear about what you truly want, you’re going to have to
understand your Human Design. Knowing your unique Human Design helps
you know what inspirations and desires are true for you and how to be aware
of which desires are yours and how to tease those out from other energetic influences.
I’ve watched a lot of people try to manifest what they think they “should” want
and what they think they need to make what they really want happen. I’ve watched
a lot of people struggle to manifest what they’ve been told they need to have to
be successful in life with little results.
Creation really isn’t such a convoluted process. It’s pretty simple. In order to
get what you want, you’ve got to know what you truly want.
Of course, there is more to the process but this is a vital first step.