THE IN-BETWEEN TIME…
I hope this week finds you remembering that a good start is half the work.
Good starts mean that you have to take the time to create the good start. Life has seasons. The stars and the planets illuminate the seasons of our life with cycles; Saturn return at the end of our twenties, Uranus opposition at the end of our thirties, Kiron return at the end of our forties and Saturn return again at the end of our fifties. These are all represent maturing seasons in our life.
We also experience our own personal and collective seasons as well – the birth of children, marriages, divorces, job change, physical changes – even pandemics. Personally, I’m spending a lot of time with the bathroom mirror these days integrating the new way my body is carrying me through life as a I age.
These big cycles cause us to rewrite the story we tell about who we are. We are no longer the people we were before the season changed. Often times we don’t know who we are growing into becoming either. There’s often an “in between time” that invites us to craft a new narrative about who we are.
There is a sacredness to being in the in-between. We experience the in-between in micro-bursts every day. We experience sacred waiting time in car line when we pick up our children from school. There is in between time while we wait in line at the grocery store or at the bakery. We spend time waiting while on hold with customer service.
When we enter the time in between – the sacred waiting – high on adrenaline and cortisol it’s hard to slow down the body enough to truly be with the waiting. To take a breath and remember Source breathing through us and giving us life. In fact, adrenaline and cortisol make the breath rapid and shallow. We distract ourselves from the discomfort and the swell of energy that artificially tells us we “don’t have the time for this…” by opening our phone, scrolling on social media or thinking terrible thoughts about the cashier ahead or the person who brought 11 items – instead of 10!!!!! – into the express line at the store.
We bring this same sense of urgency into the bigger waiting times in our life. Last week I wrote about the time it takes for new opportunities to show up in our life and how Human Design gives us a mandate to wait. Most of us approach the waiting with fear and mistrust.
What if nothing shows up? What if nothing happens? Will people judge me for “doing nothing”? What is my value if I’m not “doing anything”?
There’s a little bit of feeling like we’re corks bobbing on an ocean with wild currents that we have no control over when we think about the process of waiting. When you don’t understand the sacredness of the in-between time, you don’t master how to use it properly – to see it as an essential part of the process of creating your new life.
Waiting is integral to creating. Creativity itself has seasons. It takes time to translate inspiration into form. It takes time to transcribe the ribbon of ideas that run through you into words and consequent right action. And once the process is over, like the fields in the winter, you need time to integrate, to rewrite your narrative because the creative process changes you and you need time to align, calibrate, recharge and renew yourself.
Creating is work – work that starts first with aligning.
If we resist the waiting, sit with it in fear and fail to use the sacred in-between time as an opportunity to rewrite the story of who we are growing into becoming, we fail to create what we want. Not only that, because the Root Center, the center that regulates adrenaline and timing, gets under pressure, we often skip the waiting part and leap into the next thing and find ourselves sitting in the same place we started a couple of months later….even more fatigued and frustrated, bitter, angry or disappointed.
To wait with power and to influence how the path of your life unfolds, you have to realize that waiting is a pause that is essential to crafting something new – something bigger and more worthy of who you are.
There is immense “doing” in the waiting cycle. Waiting is a time to work on your mindset, rest, do the internal work you need to do to heal and live more true to who you are, a time to connect with your Purpose, end-vision what you want, study and learn, connect and collaborate with others and plan.
It’s a joy to play
It’s in the experience of the joy of play that we increase our dopamine and serotonin and blast open the creative power of our mind and our connection to awe, the Divine Breath, inspiration and epiphanies that spark the path the creating a new story about who you are and what your life means.
This week I invite you to explore those in-between times in your life. Wait with intention. Bring your focus back to your breath, your connection to yourself and your heartbeat. I encourage you to take stock of your life. You can keep it simple. Bullet points are fine. What area of your life would you like to change and grow?
Find something fun to do, something that sparks the creativity in you. Draw, watercolor, paint, dance, walk, rub a dog tummy, buy some bubble gum or order that crazy pink drink with the whipped cream and sprinkles on it…
Life is as long or short as we make it. When we find the in-between times, we find the length and the sacredness that allows us to create the life we were born for.
Have a great week!
From my Heart to Yours,