Carrot or Stick by Karen Curry Parker

We are just a couple of weeks into the New Year. How’s it going?

It’s not always easy to make change, dig deep and find that creative spark that supports you in creating what you want in our life.

Most of us are either motivated by a stick, the fear of the consequences that will happen if we DON’T make change or a carrot, the promise of something better.

Like it or not, a majority of us are mostly motivated by the stick. That’s why so many marketers use fear when they try to sell you something. (“If you don’t buy this product, terrible things will happen to you…”)

For example, we go on diets so that we can avoid the dire consequences of not eating well. We take vitamins and exercise to stave off cancer and chronic ailments. Fear is often a great motivator.

We don’t always realize the “carrot” at the end of our choices until we’ve already consistently made the changes we’re working on implementing.

It isn’t until taking care of your body consistently becomes an ingrained part of your lifestyle that you discover that being healthy means you also feel better and you have more energy.

When you think about what you want to create in your life right now, what motivates you more, the “stick” or the “carrot”?

If you’re like most people, you have a dream inside of you. Maybe you dream of writing a book, being an artist, helping people, traveling and having more freedom, growing your own food, spending more time with your family, fostering children, sharing the depth of your Creative Self with the world in some way….

(Read this part of you are motivating by the “stick”. If you’re a “carrot” person, scroll down to read the “carrot” part!) If you don’t take care of your dream, it will die.

Life has a way of teaching us to put our dreams on the shelf. We think they’re not practical or possible. We have other more important obligations to take care of like children, aging parents, partners or careers.

We think we’ll do our dream on the side or we’ll wait until we’re older, the children are older, our careers are more stable, our finances are more secure….

…until time runs out on the dream.

We buy into the myth that when you do what you love, the money follows. Only to find that the money doesn’t always show up leaving us feeling like failures and the dream dies.

As coaches for a combined total of more than 60 years experience, we have seen the end result of dead dreams. You give up on the idea of success. You feel bitter, jealous, angry, frustrated and despairing about having a meaningful life. You settle. You self-sabotage. You fail to take the necessary steps to change your life for the better.

When you stop dreaming, you lose your life direction and feel blocked and get stuck.

You stop being fully engaged with life, you’ll get stuck in the past, your potential will die inside of you, you won’t make your unique contribution to the world and you’ll fail to live your destiny.

(You’ll also burn out your body, fail to access synchronicity and magic, have a lowered immune response, have more headaches and backaches, even gain weight and lose sleep…EEEEK…I know, right???)

(Okay, this is for the “carrot” people…) You are a cosmic, once-in-a-lifetime event. (Yes, YOU!) You serve a vital and irreplaceable role in the world. Your dream is what you’re here to fulfill and give to the world.

When you fulfill that dream, that seed, that spark of Who You Truly Are, the whole world grows and benefits from the fulfillment that you bring forth.

Not only that, your life feels purposeful and meaningful. You have access to greater creativity and you “discover” elegant solutions to the challenges facing you in your life. Your Heart is more open, your relationships are deeper and more authentic. You’re more resilient, healthier and you feel more ease and joy.

As coaches who have helped, supported and celebrated 1000’s of people fulfill their dream over a combined total of 60 years of experience, Michelle Vandepas and I know exactly how to help you dive deep into your well of creativity and make the dream that lives inside of you a reality.

It’s a new year and THE year you can make that dream happen.

Do you have a book inside of you, a creative project you’ve been longing to get started, a business you’ve been planning in your head (and your Heart)?

Are you ready to make your unique contribution to the world, activate your leadership and live a life that is the full expression of your potential?

Here’s the deal. Whether you realize it or not, you’re already living your dream life. If you have a dream, you’re already deeply energetically tied to the creation of your dream.

But to do that, you have to change your relationship with your dream

…and with yourself.


Something to help you nurture the dreamer in you…

That’s why we decided to open up our upcoming Ojo Caliente Retreat to all Dreamers.

Imagine 3 days in the New Mexico desert, soaking in ancient sacred hot springs, diving deep and digging into the well of your creative self, uncovering the dreams that live in your Heart…getting that book started (or completed!), laying out a tangible plan for your business, creating the art that’s longing to express through you, planning your speaking career, starting your non-profit, taking leadership that changes, not only your own life, but makes the world a better place…

Imagine nurturing, experienced guidance, support, accountability, community, spiritual connection and a deep communion with your Dream and your Purpose.

You return home recharged, activated and with a concrete plan of action in place so that you dream is now integrated with your purpose in a meaningful way in your every day life.

Whether you click on the link because you’re afraid your Dream will die or you click on the link because you’re ready to fully activate your Dream, please click on the link to learn more or register and join us!

https://thematrix.world/retreats/