Be Yourself

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*  In an effort to help you learn more quickly, I have recorded this blog post for those of you who prefer to listen rather than read.  To listen, click here:

Our lives are the sum total of all the decisions we’ve made. Where we are today is directly a result of our choices. There is great power in understanding these statements. You can either beat yourself up because you’re not where you want to be and you wish, in hindsight, that you’d made different choices. Or, you can embrace the thought that you can change your life right now by making different choices.

One of the keys to creating a life you love, is knowing how to make great choices.

That’s where things get complicated.

There are so many reasons why we struggle to make the choices that are correct for us. The truth is most of us are taught to use our minds to make decisions. We learn to find “logical” and reasonable reasons why we “should” or “should not” do something. We give our thoughts power over the rest of our ways of “knowing” and often make decisions that feel bad in our hearts or our “guts”, but we push forth anyway because we’ve been trained to give our minds dominion over our lives.

One of the reasons I love Human Design so much is that it gives you a unique strategy that allows you to make decisions in a way that is correct for you. My intention for this article (and the ones that follow) is to show you how your unique Human Design empowers you to make good, strong, abundant decisions for yourself in a way that honors who you are and is correct for you.

In other words, I want to help you understand your Human Design so you can learn how to know how YOU know and how to trust yourself and your own “knowing”. You are, after all, the only one who can make good choices for yourself.

Over the next few weeks I will be writing about the Nine Centers in Human Design and how these energy centers can be leveraged to help you make good decisions in your life. I have found, after doing Human Design readings for more than 10 years now, that giving people an understanding of their personal energy blueprint (aka Human Design) helps them make empowered, authentic choices.

(In other words, when you know who you are and how you operate, your decisions won’t be as likely to be influenced by false obligations, guilt, lack of clarity, old conditioned patterns and limiting beliefs.)

In addition, I will include Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) setups and instructions along with affirmations to support you in embracing the magnificence of YOU in the easiest way possible.

Change is good. Transformation can be fun. Learning will be easy!

I’m going to start with some simple Human Design information. (If you’d like to learn more, check out the Human Design Level One training or…stay tuned…I’m offering a nice “treat” for Halloween…that will help you learn more about your personal chart.)

When you look at your Human Design chart you’ll notice that some bits are colored in and some are white. The colored in parts are called “defined”. Because this is essentially a “map” of your personal energy, the colored in parts are consistent parts of your energy. These are aspects of yourself that stay the same over time and are, in essence, your authentic self.


Defined aspects of your chart are energetic signal transmitters. These are the energies that you send out into the world.

The white parts of your chart are called “open” or “undefined”. Open parts of your chart are places in your energy system where you take energy and information in from the world and people around you. And you don’t just take energy in here, you actually amplify energy here so it can feel pretty intense sometimes, depending on who you’re with and where you are.


Where you have openness in your chart is where you can become wise about energy and where you truly “know” others. But, because undefined energy is inconsistent, meaning it changes depending on who you’re with and where you are (and, to a certain degree, with the movements of the planet), these energies are not reliable or dependent. They can change, and they do, all the time.

Because we not only perceive energy in our open Centers and Gates in our chart, but we also amplify these energies, it’s very easy to feel like we are what we are not.

Our open Centers take in energy in unpredictable ways and, over time, we develop consistent behavioral patterns that help us manage the unpredictable nature of our open energy Centers. These behaviors can sometimes help us but usually keep us from living authentically.

(If you want to learn more, please view this 45 minute webcast about Open Centers and conditioned behavioral patterns:

So. Let’s keep this simple.

1. If you are raised by a person who has an energy that you don’t, it’s easy to feel like you have that kind of energy and to mistakenly act as if you do.

2. When you grow up and leave home, you aren’t around that kind of energy, but you still act like you do.

And trying to be what you’re not is exhausting and causes you to feel confused about what you want for your own life.

Ok. Back to this issue of clarity, thinking and decision-making…this part is kind of funny…

Most of us don’t have consistent energy for thinking. Only one out of eight people get their inspiration from the inside of their heads (aka “thinking). The rest of us get our inspiration from outside of ourselves.

Yet, we are deeply conditioned by belief systems (and even an educational system) that teach us that “thinking” is the way to clarity and good decision making.

For most people, “thinking” doesn’t really create clarity! In fact, someone who has an open Head Center and is designed to experience unlimited inspiration from the world outside of him or herself, is bound to be overwhelmed with choices, questions, thoughts and possibilities and the more they “think”, the more confused they can become.


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When you understand your unique energy blueprint, the magnificence of your definition and the wisdom of your openness, you begin to understand how you operate. And when you truly know yourself, it gets much easier to make good choices.

I have to digress on one more important introductory thought for this week’s post.

This is a very personal thought that is the foundation of everything I do and teach. I hope you will embrace it deeply into your heart because understanding this thought can give you the keys to a truly joyful life.

We are hard-wired to be abundant in every way. We are supposed to be happy, healthy, loved, loving, prosperous, safe, excited, joyful and everything else good you can think of.

It is our conditioned resistance to this natural state that keeps us from our good.

You are an incredibly special and magnificently unique Divine Creation.

Period. The end.

And to live out your unique “niche” in life, you need to know who you are and how you operate. You don’t have to figure things out. You don’t have to meditate, say mantras, write affirmations…all you have to do is be yourself. The rest falls into place naturally.

I believe that understanding your unique Human Design gives you the knowledge necessary to line up with your Divine Inheritance of authentic abundance.

Human Design gives you a solid strategy that helps you live Your life. Your way.

I hope that in the next few weeks I can show you how simple it can be to claim your abundance and create a life that feels good to you!

And I look forward to the honor of working with you personally to show you exactly how to Be Your (magnificient) self.

Have a wonderful week!



2 Replies to “Be Yourself”

  1. Oops…In the original version of this post I wrote that seven out of eight people get their inspiration from “thinking”. Actually ONE out of eight people get their inspiration from thinking. Seven out of eight get their inspiration from the outer world. KC

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Jamila Jamie

Jamila Jamie joined the team in 2020 and is now the Director of the Quantum Alignment System™, which is the advanced integrated Professional Training created by Karen Curry Parker that blends the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), Quantum Human Design™, subtle body therapies (quantum essential oils & quantum flower essences) and traditional coaching. She is the point of contact from the moment you sign up for QAS Professional Training all the way through Certification. Jamila is the creator of the powerful Flower Essences used in this program.

Jamila is a 2/4 Time Bender (Manifesting Generator), Mother of one son, three precious fur babies 🐶🐾 and in true Time Bender fashion is a multi-passionate entrepreneur.

She is a Quantum Energist, Certified Homeopath, Quantum Alignment System Practitioner & Quantum Human Design Specialist as well as certified in numerous other energy healing and psychology techniques.

From as long as she can remember she was always able to see and know things about people by being able to “read” their energy. An avid learner and self-proclaimed geek, she has been delving in Human Design for over 10 years and uses this as the guidepost in all her work.

Jamila is also the creator of Quantum Essences. A unique and powerful holistic line of what her clients call “magical potions” 🪄 that elevate energy healing and help you realign with your energy template.

Jamila has written for several established websites and magazines. It is her passion to help women liberate their energy and take back their power, so they live authentically…Bold, Fierce, & Free.

Kristin Anne

Kristin Anne joined the team in 2020 and is now the Chief Operating Officer (COO) overseeing and managing the daily operations of the Quantum Alignment System, LLC in its purpose and mission of waking people up to their innate creativity and unlimited possibility through modeling and teaching grace, contribution and alignment with the Cosmic Plan.

Kristin is Made to Love ❤️ it’s what she does, it’s Who she is. She even has it tattooed on her left forearm so it’s the first thing she sees when waking up every day as a reminder of why she’s here. Everything she does, says and shares is from the abundance and overflow of Love that just oozes out of her (and not because her life has been all sunshine and roses, it’s her dark days and life experiences that have refined her into the Light she is today.) It’s why regardless of what her day was like or what’s going on in the world she can lay her head down at night and wake up each morning in deep deep gratitude for being Alive and still having people in her life that she gets to Love and serve.

She now gets the honor and privilege of being the person in people’s lives that she used to wish was in hers. She has over 20 years of business management and administration experience. She’s obsessed with process improvement, organization, streamlining, simplification, details and communication. (Oh and Checklists! ✅ Can’t forget the checklists.)

She’s a 2/4 Time Bender (Manifesting Generator), Gemini Sun & Moon and Leo Rising, Certified Quantum Human Design Specialist, Yoga and Reiki Practitioner. She is also a wife to an amazing and supportive partner, Momma of two precious fur babies 🐶🐾 and Soul Sister to many incredible friends who she considers family, a bunch of who she’s met through the beautiful and amazing community that Karen has built.

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