A Human Design Valentine….

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My husband and I have “date night” every Saturday night.  Last weekend we watched the movie, American Sniper.  I’m not going to argue whether it was politically correct or not.  No matter what your political persuasion, it was a very well done and deeply disturbing movie.

It was probably more disturbing for me personally because I was coming off of a week of feeling the pain of the world pretty deeply.  I’m not one of those Lightworkers who avoids the news, although I understand why someone would choose to not pay attention to the horrors that show up on the CNN news feed.

I like to read the news and then take a minute to use the deep emotional trigger that I almost always experience when I read the news, to fuel an intentional prayer and visualize a peaceful, sustainable world where we are all safe, have enough food, have the opportunity to fully explore and express our unique individual potential….

But last week the planetary transits made us all feel a bit more sensitive and, for me, reading the news left me feeling pretty raw.

And then we saw American Sniper and I totally lost it.

I had nightmares for days, snuggled for an extra long time with my five-year-old, called all my family members and told them I love them…

Even though I’m a little woo-woo with my spirituality, I’m a pragmatist. I totally and absolutely believe that we can create peace on the planet and I know that for that to happen we have to really understand the nature of Love and what we need to do to really express a reality rooted in Love.

World peace is not going to be created with candle light rituals, crystals, past life regressions, or, most importantly through sacrifice.

True Love does not involve martyrdom.

True Love is strong and powerful, not fluffy and weak.  Love gives us the power to lift cars off people, to forge forward and to do the seemingly impossible.

I think sometimes we think love means live and let live.  Accept everything.  Judge nothing.  And that being truly loving means turning the other cheek and allowing others to abuse you, take advantage of you and mistreat you.  Or allowing the same for others.

I think I understand these spiritual concepts as much as I can from my human perspective. I’ve been a conscious student of Spirit since I was 18 years old (and I’m much older than that now….)  Over the years I’ve spend on this planet, I’ve seen people distort and twist the concept of love into some pretty weird pretzels.

Love is never about allowing yourself to be abused or allowing abuse.  Love is not about putting on a mask and being someone you’re not to please someone.  It’s not about giving up what you want or not asking for what you need.

Love is strong and powerful and has the courage to say “no” to things that are not loving.  Love is open to win/win solutions. Real love honors and accepts you for the wondrous being you are.

Love says “no” to things like physical violence, rape, murder, pillage, terrorism, starvation, lack of educational opportunities, and any other circumstance on this planet that makes your heart sick.

If you look at the blueprint for humanity (the Human Design chart), you’ll see that the energy for love and defense is complex, emotional and rooted in primal life force.  In the low expression of being human, it’s easy for us to be vengeful, hold on to the past, forget to take our direction from Spirit, fight, struggle, provoke and basically go koo-koo.

And for those of us who are really clever and a little too tender-hearted we can also avoid all emotional intensity and hide out in our heads and try to fix things with mental solutions and “consciousness”.

To truly live the power of Love, you have to know how to act in the name of Love and ALSO stay in the consciousness of Love.  You need head and heart.

What does that mean?

(It means a lot of things and I am certainly not going to get in my ego and pretend like I know the meaning or the “how” of all of this.  My intention here is to open up a dialogue to help us collectively expand and deepen our definition of Love so that we can live it even more fully here on Planet Earth.)

I’ll start by making a list.  Please feel free to add your input in the comment section.  I really want to hear what you think, feel and intuit about this.

It means:

1.  For things to evolve on the planet we have to start with our minds and our consciousness.  Everything in form started first as a thought somewhere.  For us to create a world that is sustainable and peaceful, we have to see and believe that it’s possible.  (We only made it to the moon when people began believing it was a possibility and that it could be done.  Only then did the details then revealed themselves.)

Our consciousness AND our emotional energy are very, very powerful and creative.  What we feel and believe collectively spins the web of our world experience.  What we experience in life is a reflection of our collectively held beliefs and emotions.

Like it or not, lack consciousness is still very pervasive on the planet.  The world is clearly reflecting this back to us.  Global warming, war, starvation, terrorism…  The collective mindset creates this.

The power to change this lies within ourselves first.

2.  Our collective consciousness is the compilation of the level of consciousness of each and every one of us.  We are vital pieces of the whole.

For the world to shift, enough people have to believe and BE in the consciousness of abundance and create a “tipping point” that shifts the consciousness of the majority of people on the globe.

What you think and feel about abundance is very important and tending to your own mindset is one of the most important things you can do to Live Love on the planet.

3.  Your life is a holographic representation of the whole.  You are a fragment of the Divine and your piece is very, very important.

If we are to live in a loving world, we have to start first by loving ourselves.

If you can’t stand in front of the mirror and read a love letter out loud to yourself and really mean it and feel it, you probably have some serious work to do.

If you can’t say “NO” to the things in your life that are not honoring and loving of you, then you must get to work now.  The age of martyrdom is over.

You loving yourself is also one of the most important things you can do to live love on the planet.  (That’s why I teach Human Design.  I think it’s one of the most powerful tools around to help you discover/remember how truly magnificent you really are….AND, personally, I don’t CARE what modality you use to learn to love  yourself.  Just do it!)

4.  Be mindful of holding on the past, not forgiving, the deliciousness of vengeance and revenge, the impulsive nature of violence, both physical and verbal and forgetting to connect first with Source before you take any kind of action…

True Love is forgiving, does not seek vengeance, is nonviolent and always asks Source to reveal the highest expression of Love available.

But remember, that true Love says “no” in a healthy, empowered way.

5.  Stay in love.  You are a nexus in a web of love.  You are here to anchor the vibration of love on the planet.  Cultivate the feeling of love in your heart and anchor it.  Make it your touchstone for when you get pushed out of that loving place.

Last week when the horrors I read about on the CNN page kept intruding into my meditation, I placed my hand on my heart and shifted my awareness to how much I love my husband, our children, my brother, my sister, my friends, my clients and this sacred work I get to do in this life.

Once I felt that feeling I could radiate that energy on the situations on the globe that I found so disturbing and stay “in love”.

6.  Take loving action.  Do something each week that actively moves us towards the manifestation of love on the planet.  Do it with the intention of being “in love” not out of guilt, sorrow or to ameliorate your personal pain.  If you don’t know what to do…Pray.  Ask the Universe to guide you to the most loving act you can commit.

And, if you’re in a personal situation that is fraught with intense energy and you don’t know what to do, do the same.  Pray for guidance about taking loving action.

It’s Valentines Day.  A simple complicated day.  A day filled with expectation, love and sometimes pain and disappointment.

Make a commitment today to simply stay “in love” and make it the most authentic loving day possible.

I am so excited to hear your feedback!!!!!

What else would you add to this list?








16 Replies to “A Human Design Valentine….”

  1. Thank you Karen – a beautiful message. I too am sensitive to news so try to never watch it. Thank you for the reminder of what a beautiful world we live in and to honor our place in it.

  2. For the past year or so I keep coming back to two things… one is self forgiveness and the other is being gentle to myself.
    I have found that when I am gentle to myself … I’m gentle to the others around me. When I’m harsh with them I realize I’m simply being harsh on me.

  3. Whether it be in our personal relationships or on the grand scale of world politics, if each of us would simply treat the people around us the way we would like to be treated in our heart of hearts, just think what an incredibly loving world we would live in. This is the world I envision. By starting such dialogues and inviting participation I know that we can achieve this level of consciousness. Thank you Karen for your brilliant insights.

  4. This e-mail is very timely for me, Karen. One of my cousins, who is a Green Beret, is in Iraq. Like you, I don’t avoid the news, though I’ve scaled back a bit because I need to find a place of sanity in my life. I know what is going on with Isis in Iraq, and my cousin is always on my mind. How awful it would be if he was kidnapped by Isis. This morning I was wondering what my part is in all of this, what I can do, and the word “Pray” jumped into my mind. Pray for all that is good and to mend wounded hearts. Prayer isn’t easy for me but I’m going to do it. On another note, I haven’t felt well for years and am being treated for Adrenal Fatigue. Looking back over my life, I can see that everyone and everything came first. I allowed myself to be treated badly. To heal my body, I have to put myself first and look at myself with love which hasn’t been easy. But the way I see it now, I have to take care of myself so I do whatever I can for my cousin, even if it’s just energetically. I could go on and on…Thank-you so much, Karen for what you are doing for all of us.

  5. I do not pay attention to the news. To me, it is all the same thing; yin and yang happening in the world around me. Valentine’s Day is not about Love, it is about emotional feelings fraught with romantic overtones, called love. While I go along with the human need to express real Love through the card/candy thing, it is never above giving something, but how I express Love for another.
    Relating to the news-things, while I may feel anger and pain in the moment over some things, mostly I know it is not real and that some part of Source as me witnesses a part committing what human emotions call horrific. But I Love it all anyway. How can I not do that as God Expressing?
    Thank you for your honest and meaningful words; they mean a lot of all of us. I look in the mirror every day and Love Me by looking into my eyes and say “I love you” with heartfelt meaning. This practice has changed a lot for me. In these kinds of situations I know that “Nothing Real can be threatened, nothing unreal exists” ACIM.
    Some reading this may think I have my head in the clouds, but it is my heart that is expressing these thoughts.

  6. Thank you for sharing, Karen. Beautifully articulated.
    I especially appreciate #3 … a reminder to make the choice to love oneself – an area I have struggled in. Love and Blessings to you, Karen, for sharing this on Valentine’s Day.

    ~David Lewis

  7. Fall in Love with yourself… You can’t be too selfish in this regard. Fully receive, open to, unwrap or unwind the gift that is YOU! As we Love or nurture ourselves first, or in wholeness, we then naturally radiate Loving environments for ourselves and others. Radiating Love means that you are not seeking outside of your beingness, you are reflecting this Love/Light from within as a whole and Loving being. In this way of responding and reflecting, we may blossom and evolve through the practice of Conscious Loving. Thank you Karen and to all for providing this Loving environment!
    Here’s “To Love”

  8. Thank you, Karen. On this day, and so timely for me, your words are very meaningful and affirming what i am trying to do in my life. It is so reassuring that others are on the same path. This new way of being is necessary for love and peace to come into our lives and the world……amd starts with me…..a challenging task which I am working hard at. Reconditioning the mind from negativity and replacing it with love is the way. I find that my faith keeps me on the path, and being in positive environments helps. Prayer, too, aand constant awareness of God in everything.

  9. If you read the bible, in particulat the Book of Daniel and the Book of Revelation, from a perspective of bible prophecy, you should not be too suprised about the current financial crisis and multiple simultaneous violent events occuring right now on our planet. What is needed at the moment is what I would call a counter pole or anti pole which when implemented correctly neutralizes the current upheavals for the implementing person. Love, the way you describe it Karen actually constitutes such a counter or anti pole fully compatible with bible prphecy, and it will ultimatly lead to a world characterized by peace and prosperity on a brand new level beyond our imagination.

  10. thank you, Karen, for this thoughtful writing. I feel reoriented and connecting to Valentine’s Day . I resonated so much with #3. In order to have loving relationships, I need to allow the fullness of me, that I am whole. Thank you for continuing to repeat the message that it starts within.

  11. Karen maybe you should see disturbing movies more often. This was an exquisite dossier of thoughts regarding where we stand as a planet to be affected by love. It begins with an individual who knows their Source and is able to love self completely, even when we don’t feel so lovable. However, the connection with abundant Source assures us that we are lovedl

    Life is good and I love the phrase LIVE LOVE, after all we have not come to the point that we can look at love solely as a noun; it does imply action. It began as action and must continue as action until we can completely see the planet in love.

    I love you Karen and am filled with gratitude for the gift you are giving the world through Human Design.

  12. I agree with what you say, Karen. I believe the path to world peace and harmony begins with each and every one of us loving and taking care of ourselves first. That’s not always easy, especially when, as a highly sensitive person, I don’t like to rock the boat and put other’s needs before my own.

    But I’m realizing that sometimes rocking the boat is the most loving thing to do for a another person. It allows both of us to grow and evolve.

  13. Another sensitive, self effacing (projector) here… But I do love myself, and one action I took that helped me to love myself was by recording some self-love meditations and then playing them back to myself while meditating… I can’t remember the author who recommended this but the name of the book was “Recreating Your Self”…

    The other thing I’m still working on is to not take anything personally! Had an incident today that threw me for awhile, then I remembered…don’t take it personally… I feel better now.

    Thanks for all the support you give us!

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Jamila Jamie joined the team in 2020 and is now the Director of the Quantum Alignment System™, which is the advanced integrated Professional Training created by Karen Curry Parker that blends the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), Quantum Human Design™, subtle body therapies (quantum essential oils & quantum flower essences) and traditional coaching. She is the point of contact from the moment you sign up for QAS Professional Training all the way through Certification. Jamila is the creator of the powerful Flower Essences used in this program.

Jamila is a 2/4 Time Bender (Manifesting Generator), Mother of one son, three precious fur babies 🐶🐾 and in true Time Bender fashion is a multi-passionate entrepreneur.

She is a Quantum Energist, Certified Homeopath, Quantum Alignment System Practitioner & Quantum Human Design Specialist as well as certified in numerous other energy healing and psychology techniques.

From as long as she can remember she was always able to see and know things about people by being able to “read” their energy. An avid learner and self-proclaimed geek, she has been delving in Human Design for over 10 years and uses this as the guidepost in all her work.

Jamila is also the creator of Quantum Essences. A unique and powerful holistic line of what her clients call “magical potions” 🪄 that elevate energy healing and help you realign with your energy template.

Jamila has written for several established websites and magazines. It is her passion to help women liberate their energy and take back their power, so they live authentically…Bold, Fierce, & Free.

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Kristin Anne joined the team in 2020 and is now the Chief Operating Officer (COO) overseeing and managing the daily operations of the Quantum Alignment System, LLC in its purpose and mission of waking people up to their innate creativity and unlimited possibility through modeling and teaching grace, contribution and alignment with the Cosmic Plan.

Kristin is Made to Love ❤️ it’s what she does, it’s Who she is. She even has it tattooed on her left forearm so it’s the first thing she sees when waking up every day as a reminder of why she’s here. Everything she does, says and shares is from the abundance and overflow of Love that just oozes out of her (and not because her life has been all sunshine and roses, it’s her dark days and life experiences that have refined her into the Light she is today.) It’s why regardless of what her day was like or what’s going on in the world she can lay her head down at night and wake up each morning in deep deep gratitude for being Alive and still having people in her life that she gets to Love and serve.

She now gets the honor and privilege of being the person in people’s lives that she used to wish was in hers. She has over 20 years of business management and administration experience. She’s obsessed with process improvement, organization, streamlining, simplification, details and communication. (Oh and Checklists! ✅ Can’t forget the checklists.)

She’s a 2/4 Time Bender (Manifesting Generator), Gemini Sun & Moon and Leo Rising, Certified Quantum Human Design Specialist, Yoga and Reiki Practitioner. She is also a wife to an amazing and supportive partner, Momma of two precious fur babies 🐶🐾 and Soul Sister to many incredible friends who she considers family, a bunch of who she’s met through the beautiful and amazing community that Karen has built.

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